The Difference Between Curiosity and Control

August 4, 2014 — Leave A Comment


I’m honored to have my friend Bob Hudson on the blog this week. Bob is the founder of the Cross Ministry Group and creator of its two flagship retreats ~ Men at the Cross and Women at the Cross. If you’ve never experienced these life-changing weekends, do yourself a huge favor and go! You won’t regret it.

Miraculous births can mess with the mind! In fact, most anything that has to do with God’s action in our lives messes with our minds! In the 1st Chapter of Luke, two angelic baby announcements evoked interesting reactions. When Gabriel told Zechariah that he was going to be a father to a prophet his response was, “How can I be sure of this?” ~ “We’re too OLD!” Apparently, this was not the correct response because he got a good lecture from the angel and then lost his voice for nine months.

Compare this experience with Gabriel visiting Mary and the good news that she was going to give birth to the Son of the Most High. She was troubled by this and asked: “How will this be since I am a virgin?” Notice there is no lecture from Gabriel and a “simple” explanation is forthcoming.

What happened here? Zechariah and Mary both asked a basic question, yet they received two very different responses from God’s messenger. This story is a lesson in how to approach God and life with our minds. For Zechariah it was about control. He wanted to be “sure.” He needed to have confirmation that it was going to happen and needed to understand how it could even be possible. For Mary, it was about curiosity ~ rooted in wonder and amazement. There was openness in her that did not reject the possibility even though she could not understand how it was possible. “How will this be?” The angel’s response was “The Holy Spirit will come upon you.” Now, that’s helpful! When has that happened before in this way?! But, it was enough for Mary.

She could have gone the way of Zechariah and fired off her list of questions: “You know how babies are made and this doesn’t make sense. How is the Holy Spirit going to impregnate me? How does that work actually? Besides, who am I anyway? I’m just a regular girl. Why me? How am I supposed to raise this child? How do you raise ‘the Son of the Most High?’ And then, what about my family, the neighbors, and Joseph?! Besides I’m not good enough. I don’t understand how God would do this for me.”

Thankfully, she stuck with wonder and amazement and responds: “May it be to me as you have said.” She yields to a mystery. She does not give in to control ~ the need to know how it can be, but surrenders her soul, her body, her entire being to God. She had space within her to receive the promise.

What about your mind? Is it surrendered enough to allow God to perform the miracle of being filled with him and his love? Or is your mind “filled up” with the need to control by demanding to understand? Are you willing to let go of all the arguments (judgments) about yourself and your circumstances that fight against the wonder and amazement of God’s promised love for you?

This week, practice curiosity instead of control. Hold your curiosity loosely. Make room in your mind for the mystery of God, and be open to the wonder of God’s power and love for you.

Where do you have the most trouble letting go of control and practicing curiosity instead? Share your thoughts in the comments below, or on Facebook or Twitter.

Michael Warden

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