Archives For February 2015


You may have noticed in recent weeks I’ve often tagged my tweets and Facebook posts with the hashtag #LiveWideAwake.

That’s because after all these years of working with coaching clients, I’ve concluded the thing people (including me) have struggled with most is waking up.

Of course I don’t mean literally “waking up” ~ as in don’t even think about talking to me before I get my coffee! (That’s important too, though. Seriously: Don’t talk to me before I get my coffee.) I mean waking up to the wonder and possibility of your life. I mean shaking yourself awake from the hazy, half-alive dream in which most people live their entire lives. In the years we live, we take on a series of roles and tasks that are handed to us as though they are the only possibilities that exist for our lives. School, graduation, job, marriage, kids, mortgage, retirement, death. You know the path as well as I do. We walk it out without the slightest question of why it matters, whether it’s God’s best for us or the world, or whether it’s really the life we want to create, and then wonder why when we reach middle age we so often discover the life we’ve built on autopilot isn’t really the life we wanted to live. Saint Augustine nailed it when he said:

“People travel to wonder at the height of the mountains, at the huge waves of the seas, at the long course of the rivers, at the vast compass of the ocean, at the circular motion of the stars, and yet they pass by themselves without wondering.”

Many people I coach come to me suddenly asking, Why isn’t my life working out like I hoped? They followed the script they were given; wasn’t that supposed to be enough? But regardless of whatever specific challenge they’re facing ~ career, family, faith, etc. ~ their struggle always seems to come back to the same fundamental question:

What does it look like to be fully alive?

The answer is different for everybody, of course ~ what makes me come fully alive might scare the crap out of you, or worse yet, bore you to tears. But underneath the specifics of each soul’s unique expression of life, there’s a common thread of desire we all share, a common experience we all want to have, and that all of us regularly struggle to find. Continue Reading…

My Story (Part 2)

February 9, 2015

(Hey, friend. This is the second part of My Story. You can read the first part here.)

As I write this, I’m in the latter half of my 50th year on Earth. As anyone my age or older will tell you, by the time you get here you’ve already been many different people and lived many different lives. There isn’t time here to recount them all. So let me tell you instead a little about the man I’ve become now, and why I’m so passionate about the work I do.

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