“Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.” ~ Jane Howard
Often it’s not the external or obvious challenges that kill a team. It’s the subtle stuff. The underlying fears. The suspicions or frustrations that nobody talks about openly. The unspoken rules of engagement. In other words, the team’s culture. Here are 9 subtle messages that sometimes infect a leadership team. Nothing turns a powerful team toxic and ineffective more quickly than undermining messages like these:
- It’s not okay to make mistakes.
- It’s not okay to take care of yourself first.
- It’s not okay to disagree when everyone else agrees.
- It’s not okay to be too functional or too happy.
- It’s not okay to be at ease or unhurried.
- It’s not okay to trust yourself.
- It’s not okay to depend on anyone or anything.
- It’s not okay to be vulnerable or to appear weak.
- It’s not okay to say no, or to set a boundary with others.
Do any of these messages show up on your team? If so, which ones? How strongly do they influence the culture of your organization?